When the wedding is all
set and done, we ask our couples after their wedding
what little tips they can offer for newlyweds on
areas of their day and if they were to do it again,
then what would they change. The areas that sounded
like a great idea having but in reality didn't add
much to their day and often were seen as a waste of
money. All wedding planners, coordinators and venue
arrangers agree that when dealing with many couples,
there is always one thing that needs to be right.
Couples need to identify it, deal with it, and then
work everything else around it.
These are personal
opinions/statements based from real weddings and
hence are not meant to offend anyone. Different
things are important to different people so it’s
interesting to hear peoples thoughts on the areas
that might actually help you in your considerations
for your day and budgets and generally be aware in
the areas that matter most.
Your day is your day and
as individual it is, it’s the personal touches are
the ones that people remember – if you can afford it
do exactly what you want to do.
Here are some thoughts and tips that might interest
wedding breakfast tables - don't go mad on
decorations becuase once the tables are laid up
there isn't a lot of room, keep it simple with a
sprinkling of diamonds or confetti, cheap and
flowers- having huge and elaborate flowers on your
tables eat up space and tend to get pulled apart by
small children, knocked over and robbed.
on Centre pieces:-
Our venue offered
flowers in vases for the table centrepieces, which
we would have been happy with, but we've opted to
ask a friend of ours to design the centrepieces and
make them ourselves. Cheap and unique!
on Wedding cake:-
It is what is important
to the individual but cakes can be so dear and a lot
of the time they don't get eaten, we cut ours before
the speeches and had it served with coffee so it all
got eaten) at the end of the day they are for just a
photo. M&S offer good ranges of wedding cakes (from
£100) as well as Tescos (from £40) with elaborate
toppers and fillings.
on Chair covers:-
Chair covers made the
room look wonderful but at a cost (from, £250). If
you are having a a civil ceremony within the same
venue then worth having them as they can be used for
the most part of the day. If however, its just the
wedding breakfast then consider its worth for just 3
Going to the hairdresser
to get your hair done could be a mare- be careful if
wearing just t-shirts as you need to change and get
into your bridal outfit without ruining your hair,
wear Dressing gown, or a zip-up top, or a button-up
shirt, or a wraparound top... just so long as it
doesn't have to come off over your head.
on Honeymoon dates:-
10 days after the
wedding saved us £1000 due to half term holidays
Can you live without favours? - most of ours got
left on the tables as people didn't know whether to
take them or not! Actual keepsake items people feel
a bit weird taking i think as were sure if they are
allowed them or not.
Try and stick to less
than £1 for this, lottery tickets etc. let the groom
mention, the wedding favours are for you if you are
going to let guests have them. If you do opt for
them, it’s traditional for sugar coated almonds but
you can have roses or quality street or even
Cadburys mini eggs in little organza bags, these are
sweets that everyone knows and won’t goto waste.
Lovehearts sweets from ebay or buy a bowl of sweets
for the table
hunting around at
jewellers and find them on the internet resorted to
a couple saving around £500
on Table plans:-
paying a lot for a table
plan is also unnecessary as it's not really looked
at for long and taken away after everyone is seated.
We had a handmade one done, they cost next to
nothing and are probably more effective. Hobbycraft
is a good place to get all the board and pieces for
your plans. You can accomplish a great table plan
for less than £20. You can get a large piece of
artists card (A1) and foam board from an art shop.
The tables had an A6 size paper so plenty of room
and clear and easy for people to read. I typed up
each table using the template from confetti and made
it larger then printed these out and cut them out
(using a stanley knife and cutting board- craft
knifes are crap and you don't get the same precision
with scissors) then mount them onto foam board using
spray fix, then mount them onto the board using glue
dots as they are stronger! and you don't want the
tables to fall off the day before the wedding and
have to get some pritt stick off reception at the
on Bridal shoes:–
No-one sees them,
comfort is key so use a nice clean pair of trainers
or summer sandals that are comfy and still look good
to change into
on not having a free bar:-
Supply wine to the
tables if need be if not let people get what they
like to drink themselves, ask venue if they charge
corkage, it may work out cheaper to bring your own
wine/champagne for the toast than paying their
on the Wedding Gown or Dress:-
look out for wedding
dress shop sales and free tickets to designer
wedding dress sales you may get a stunning bargain,
also talk with bridal shops, for example, you might
want to participate in one or two wedding shows that
they do, an opportunity to see what gowns and outfit
you like and in return expect some big discounts for
your day. Also lady in dress shop gave me a good
tip. If you choose a dress with a lace up back then
you will need less alterations so less cost. It will
be tightened or loosened to fit you.
on EBAY:– you will be surprised what you can
find on ebay; confetti , invites, wedding cake
napkins, dresses (from £45), shoes (from £8), tiaras
know someone with a nice
prestige car, they will be impressed you asked them
and obviously cheaper than anywhere else. Cars can
cost a lot, if anyone has a posh car, or a sports
car ask to use it to get to your wedding, they are
usually thrilled that you asked, (you could save
Ask fiends and family to
help in areas, there might be people you know that
can help in some areas and will only be too gladly
to assist in your big day. Get in touch with local
colleges for facials, massage's, manicures, bands,
singers, cake makers, dance routines, entertainment
etc. they are just as good and cost a lot less.
on 1st dance:-
Find a local dance class
for a first dance routine a lot cheaper than paying
someone who specialises in wedding dance.
on Flower seeds:-
Something that can be
planted indoors or outdoors around the time of your
wedding or that will flower on your first
anniversary. Keep the love growing
on Save The Date:
you can design these on
www.vistaprint.co.uk and have them printed onto
small magnets, 50 of them cost us £10- bargainous!
on having Weekday weddings:-
getting married on a
weekday will save you lots of money but you need to
let your guests know well early in advance so they
can get the day off work, you can save around £1000.
It's best to people plenty of notice say 5/6 months
for odd day weddings.
on Wedding fair suppliers:-
see f they can offer
discounts, consultations at wedding fairs is a good
time to discuss bookings and get bargains!
on Table cameras:-
dont bother, they cost a
fortune to process and 80 percent of the pictures
are crap. One couple gave guests blank discs to put
their photos on and send back to them so they can
create their own album. You can get
colour-coordinated covers in each cd case, possibly
print wedding date and names on cds, then tie up a
stack of them with ribbon and put on each table with
a tent card asking people to take one and return to
newlyweds at their convenience!
On other situations,
this hadn't worked well as only a few people did
this which was a shame but its worth a go it might
have been cos not many people noticed them. Might be
worth getting the groom to mention it in his speech
to remind people.
on Fireworks:- in one brides opinion - they
were not worth the money and people are normally too
"merry" to appreciate them at the time they are
shown unless it's for new years weddings.
find unusual reception
venues, some venues “want” to get their reception
noticed as great wedding venues and will help in
going beyond many venues in ensuring you have
everything you want and allow full control of the
grounds and venue Some even offer free overnight
stay or keep the bar going thoughout the night as
well as offering great prices at their bar.
on Makeup artists:
A makeup artist on the
day isnt really vital as most brides know what suits
them and how to do their own makeup, however a nice
manicure for bride and groom IS worth every penny as
the photographer will be taking lots of close ups of
your hands wearing your wedding rings.
on ideas during the wedding breakfast:
This worked at one
wedding, beside each place, put a tiny envelope,
each guest puts in a £1 coin and writes on the
envelope how long the bestmans speech will last,
minutes and seconds, the speech is timed and whoever
is the nearest gets the lot!
If you've set your heart on having something, ask
around to see if other suppliers can get something
cheaper and similar.
Also, NEVER be afraid to ask for a discount - being
cheeky helps a lot!